Confessions of a Logy Leader

I have a confession. I’m a closet poet, and I’ve always been a huge fan of haiku. The way that it forces us to be thoughtful, intentional and succinct is magical. What do you want to say it? What is the best way to share it? Who is your audience? What mood do you want to convey? Great…now take that and make it fit into 17 syllables.

I’ve written several different things during the past six months, some lengthy and some fiery and others passionate and melancholy. It can all be summed up into this one piece that I have chosen to share with you today. May it provoke you to reflection & action.

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Time flies when you’re pushed

Beyond natural limits

Life is but a dream

an hourglass rests in the sand, at a slight angle. there is a hazy tint to the air making it hard to see anything else.

The Myth of Work/Life Balance

Work/Life balance is a myth. I know, you don’t want to hear that, but it’s the truth. The myth of work/life balance is based on the lie/premise that you can control either. And the truth is that you can’t. The real secret is:

**turns head to see who’s watching**

HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Healthy boundaries are vital to living a complete, fulfilling life. What does that look like? Well, I’m no expert, but I spent a lot of time studying to find that exact answer. For me, practicing healthy boundaries looks like flexibility, self-advocacy, knowing when to say no, asking for help when needed, not feeling guilty for making certain things a priority in your life….and I could go on forever. But the root of healthy boundaries, for me anyway, can be summed up in one compound word: self-awareness.

Do you know your triggers? your limits? your strengths? your areas of growth? your likes/dislikes? Do you know the why behind your likes & dislikes? Do you understand why you continue to react to certain situations in the same way? All of this, and more, constitutes self-awareness. And the path towards self-awareness looks different for everybody. One day, I’ll share my full journey with you, but for now I’ll just share the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

  1. The more self-awareness you have, the better leader you are. How can you ask people to follow you if you don’t even know who they are following?
  2. You cannot change what you are not willing to acknowledge. None of us are perfect, and we will never be. We all have areas where we can grow & improve. But that growth cannot happen if you/we refuse to acknowledge that it is needed.
  3. Everything is a decision, including doing nothing at all. And every decision has a consequence, whether positive or negative. That is true for all parts of life, including personal growth.
  4. Understanding how certain situations can act as a trigger for me allows me to be able to respond and not react. That is where my “super power” lies in how I handle situations in all aspects of life. Ask yourself “why does ______ usually cause me to ______?” Explore that question and sit with the answer. Talk it through with your therapist or a trusted friend. Do the work to become a better you. You’ll eventually arrive at, “_____ used to cause me to ______, but know I choose to ________ instead.”
  5. Self-awareness is a continual process. You never arrive at a point where you are so self-aware that you no longer need to do the work. You are always changing, growing and evolving into a new person (or at least you should be). Therefore, you must continue to work the process.

I encourage each of you to focus the next phase of your leadership journey on learning & understanding yourself. I guarantee you it will be the best investment that you will ever make!!

Until next time….

~Ashley

Together…

Leadership during crisis is not something that they prepare you for in school. There’s no set of questions on the comprehensive or certification exams. There’s no manual. You just have to do it. My struggle right now is leading and being my usual transparent self. I’m tired. I’m frustrated. And in my opinion, I’m the last person anyone should be looking to for advice on how to deal with this new reality.

But maybe that’s exactly why I’m qualified to lead. Maybe my refusal to pretend that the sky is not falling in is exactly what draws people to me. Maybe my acknowledgement of the fact that I am barely hanging on by a thread is the honesty that people need to validate their own feelings about the situation. Maybe, just maybe, me feeling like a hot mess gives others the permission to also feel like a hot mess.

I know this one thing: together we can survive anything. The key word in that sentence is together. It will take all of us, acknowledging the truth of the moment and working to change this situation for the better. It will take all of us admitting that everything is not roses and sunshine. Only then, when we admit that our current systems may not be working, can we work together to find a better solution. Only then can move forward and try something new. If we can admit it’s not working, maybe we can have the courage to try something different without fear of failure. For we will all believe & know that we can continue to adjust as we move forward, together.